Monday, August 20, 2012

Liar Liar Pants on Fire!

A small glimpse into my personality. If you know me at all, you know I can't stand liars or to be lied to.  This is one of my biggest pet peeves. I just feel that the person lying to you is treating you as if you are stupid or with disrespect.  Now, I know everyone lies for the most part.  I guess there are degrees of lies or lying. For Example, Person A: "Hey, Do you like my new shirt?" Person B: "Yes, It's beautiful on you". When really Person B is thinking "Hell No, That's hideous". This I can somewhat understand. You don't want to hurt the persons feelings.  I, myself would probably tell you that I don't like your new shirt.  I have always been an honest person, and although I do not enjoy hurting peoples feelings, I am usually brutally honest.  I will always tell you how I feel and my honest opinion even if it's not what you want to hear.  Now that being said I'm not overly opinionated or judgemental. Well, I try not to be. I also appreciate this kind of honesty, even if I don't like what you tell me, I can appreciate it. Although, I find this kind of honesty to be rare, mostly because people want to be liked and don't want to piss people off or upset them. So, I can understand some little white lies. What I absolutely do not understand is people who just lie to lie or lie and manipulate other people. All people are hurt when they find out they have been lied to or deceived, even if it's just a little white lie, you are still like "WTF, you said you liked my shirt, I can't believe you lied".  

Everyone hates to be lied to but everyone lies.  Why is that? It's fascinating to me. I have actually become a pretty good judge of character and many times I can tell when someone is lying, not all the time but more than not.  I have read a few books and watched shows on body language and lies. I am by no means an expert or even great at it but it's very interesting. It's like we are trying to put one over on someone but our bodies are ratting us out. 

  Most of my close friends and family are aware of my aversion to liars and lies. Take my husband for example, he is actually a pretty honest person NOW. As for when we were dating, not so much.  I like to think I had a small hand in him now being honest and forthcoming.  Still today I know if I say " how much money did you take out from the ATM?" and he says $20, it's most likely $40. That is a running joke now and I'm pretty sure he tells me the wrong amount on purpose to drive me insane. Also, I have a few friends that when invited out somewhere, they can not or will not tell you they are not going when they know damn well they aren't going.  It's always like I might have to work or I can't get a sitter or I think I have my period that weekend.  Look, I don't care that you don't want to go just tell me so I can get an accurate head count for the reservation. Jesus People! Is telling the truth really that hard?